- Introduction
- What is Mentoring?
- Myth 1 - Mentoring and Coaching are the same thing
- Benefits of having a Mentor
- Myth 2 – Mentoring is all about the Mentee
- Benefits to the Mentor
- Benefits to the organisation
- Myth 3 - Mentoring can fix anything
- Myth 4 – Mentors are born not made
- Myth 5 – Anyone can become a Mentor
- Signs that your Mentor may need some help
- Different mentoring situations
- Career development
- Job relocation
- Starting a new business
- Professional updating
- Specialist/Technology knowledge
- Returning to work
- Training consolidation
- What makes a good Mentor?
- Good Mentors
- Research your Mentor
- Watch out for conflicts of interest
- Mentor behaviour
- The Dolphin
- The Bull
- The Bat
- The Bee Professional
- The Spider
- The Ant
- The Experienced Elephant
- The Smart Squirrel
- The Lion King
- Review where you are now
- What kind of Mentoring relationship are you in?
- Understand your motivation and skills
- Review your goals
- SWOT analysis
- Review with your Mentor
- Clarify expectations
- Confirm confidentiality
- Share your goals and objectives
- Make a mentoring plan
- SHARE how you feel
- Keeping it working
- Don’t expect too much too soon
- Eat your elephant in chunks
- Build rapport with your Mentor
- Make and share notes
- Meet your Mentor face 2 face at least once
- Don’t be afraid to use social media
- Timetable your meetings
- Ask for feedback
- Give your Mentor feedback
- Be honest with your Mentor
- Be active in your own development
- Look to build your confidence
- Communicate, communicate, communicate
- Ask your Mentor to gently challenge you
- Challenge what your Mentor tells you
- Ask questions
- Listen Actively
- Follow through
- Use your Mentor as a sounding board
- Be prepared to take risks
- Be prepared to make changes
- Ask about your Mentors mistakes, and what they learned from them
- Ask your Mentor to help you create a business network
- Do not be afraid to ask your Mentor what they are getting out of the relationship. You may be surprised.
- Share your success
- Say thank you
- When you run in to trouble
- Plan failing
- Your Mentor doesn’t answer your emails or texts
- Poor communication
- You let your frustration get the better of you
- Mentor keeps cancelling meetings
- Mentor goes AWOL
- Mentor not taking mentoring seriously
- Your Mentor micromanages you
- Your Mentor keeps making new suggestions
- Your Mentor is pushing you too hard
- The intimidating Mentor
- Mentor isn’t boosting your confidence
- Lack of empathy
- Too much ‘Empathy’!
- You’re both stuck
- General Block - Time to get Creative
- Your Mentor doesn’t have the experience you thought they did/or you think you need
- Conflicts of interest
- Breach of confidentiality
- How to break up with your Mentor
- You’ve achieved your goals
- The relationship has broken down
- Your goals have changed and your Mentor can no longer help you
- One of you has moved away
- Summary
- Author Biography - Jacqui Hogan
- Endnotes