1. Introduction
   
2. What is Mentoring? 
   
   1. Myth 1 - Mentoring and Coaching are the same thing 
      
   2. Benefits of having a Mentor
      
   3. Myth 2 – Mentoring is all about the Mentee 
      
   4. Benefits to the Mentor 
      
   5. Benefits to the organisation 
      
   6. Myth 3 - Mentoring can fix anything 
      
   7. Myth 4 – Mentors are born not made 
      
   8. Myth 5 – Anyone can become a Mentor 
      
   9. Signs that your Mentor may need some help 
      
3. Different mentoring situations 
   
   1. Career development 
      
   2. Job relocation 
      
   3. Starting a new business 
      
   4. Professional updating 
      
   5. Specialist/Technology knowledge 
      
   6. Returning to work 
      
   7. Training consolidation 
      
4. What makes a good Mentor?
   
   1. Good Mentors 
      
   2. Research your Mentor 
      
   3. Watch out for conflicts of interest 
      
5. Mentor behaviour 
   
   1. The Dolphin 
      
   2. The Bull 
      
   3. The Bat
      
   4. The Bee Professional 
      
   5. The Spider 
      
   6. The Ant 
      
   7. The Experienced Elephant
      
   8. The Smart Squirrel 
      
   9. The Lion King 
      
6. Review where you are now
   
   1. What kind of Mentoring relationship are you in? 
      
   2. Understand your motivation and skills 
      
   3. Review your goals 
      
   4. SWOT analysis 
      
7. Review with your Mentor
   
   1. Clarify expectations
      
   2. Confirm confidentiality 
      
   3. Share your goals and objectives
      
   4. Make a mentoring plan
      
   5. SHARE how you feel
      
8. Keeping it working
   
   1. Don’t expect too much too soon
      
   2. Eat your elephant in chunks
      
   3. Build rapport with your Mentor
      
   4. Make and share notes 
      
   5. Meet your Mentor face 2 face at least once 
      
   6. Don’t be afraid to use social media 
      
   7. Timetable your meetings 
      
   8. Ask for feedback 
      
   9. Give your Mentor feedback 
      
   10. Be honest with your Mentor 
       
   11. Be active in your own development 
       
   12. Look to build your confidence 
       
   13. Communicate, communicate, communicate 
       
   14. Ask your Mentor to gently challenge you 
       
   15. Challenge what your Mentor tells you 
       
   16. Ask questions 
       
   17. Listen Actively 
       
   18. Follow through 
       
   19. Use your Mentor as a sounding board 
       
   20. Be prepared to take risks 
       
   21. Be prepared to make changes 
       
   22. Ask about your Mentors mistakes, and what they learned from them 
       
   23. Ask your Mentor to help you create a business network
       
   24. Do not be afraid to ask your Mentor what they are getting out of the relationship. You may be surprised.
       
   25. Share your success 
       
   26. Say thank you 
       
9. When you run in to trouble 
   
   1. Plan failing 
      
   2. Your Mentor doesn’t answer your emails or texts 
      
   3. Poor communication 
      
   4. You let your frustration get the better of you 
      
   5. Mentor keeps cancelling meetings 
      
   6. Mentor goes AWOL 
      
   7. Mentor not taking mentoring seriously
      
   8. Your Mentor micromanages you
      
   9. Your Mentor keeps making new suggestions
      
   10. Your Mentor is pushing you too hard 
       
   11. The intimidating Mentor 
       
   12. Mentor isn’t boosting your confidence 
       
   13. Lack of empathy 
       
   14. Too much ‘Empathy’!
       
   15. You’re both stuck
       
   16. General Block - Time to get Creative
       
   17. Your Mentor doesn’t have the experience you thought they did/or you think you need 
       
   18. Conflicts of interest
       
   19. Breach of confidentiality
       
10. How to break up with your Mentor
    
    1. You’ve achieved your goals 
       
    2. The relationship has broken down 
       
    3. Your goals have changed and your Mentor can no longer help you 
       
    4. One of you has moved away 
       
11. Summary 
    

• Author Biography - Jacqui Hogan 
  
• Endnotes 
  

Most Mentors know very little about how to be an effective Mentor, which can be very frustrating for you as a Mentee. Mostmentoring books aim to educate you on the basics of how to start a mentoring relationship. However, very few deal with what to do when you find yourself in the middle of a mentoring relationship, and are uncertain as to whether you are getting the best value from that relationship. Mentors who plan to mentor more than one person over a sustained length of time should still have training. Until they do, this book will help you with advice, tips, and a whole lot more so you can get better value from your Mentor and help them, in turn, become better Mentors.

About the author

Jacqui is an experienced professional speaker on a wide range of management and non-management topics. She is also a regular blogger and you can share her management insights at http://www.cocreative.co.uk and on twitter @CoCreative. As an author, she has written several business books including ‘The People Side of Project Management’, available on Book Boon, and co-authored ‘Together Works’, available on Amazon.