Now that you have delved into resilience you probably want to create some specific goals for yourself. Trying to become better at regulating your moods and not letting anything push you down into a negative state of mind really helps in this context. From my own experience, I think that becoming aware of your shortcomings is a huge gift.Being able to learn how to become that person who everyone would like to be is probably one of the drivers for many people to be consistently calm. Nelly Shein and Nathaniel Schooler discuss resilience goals here.